One of the reason why my love affair with life continues to be a hair raising and tantalising romance is simply because of its sinuous curves daring me to explore her, find out the surprises it has. In youth, life seemed to be one straight line aligned to my wish and whims. As age, family and career catches up with me, it becomes a maze, a puzzle where one has to negotiate many turns. It was in the begining of this life that I commented like this ..
" My life is a series of compromises. I start with some ideas, some thoughts and ambitions ... but on every step in life, I keep negotiating with twists and turns of life and striking compromises so as to move ahead," I told my friends when I settled down in adult life with family and a job. All of them laughed at me. Today, after 13-14 years, with sheepish smile they say,"How right you were." Thus Sulu muses.
Many comments have come on my FB wall writings and as this is close to my heart, I decided to share it with my friends by taging them.I am reproducing some of them below:-
Aparajita Mohapatra:- Nopes.... Not even in the face of Armageddon. Never compromise...especially wt urself..hey, U r all u have! but dats just IMOH pl..:)
Meghli Mishra .... In the decisions of life, what should rule?Passion, or reason?It is a known fact that through-out life compromises must be made. But when does the compromising go too far?When you sacrifice friends for family?Excitement for security?...How many flaws will one overlook for the one she loves?When does compromising become settling? At what point do you realize you’ve sacrificed too much?Why do we find that we are the ones compromising the most?Why do we consider it the norm?We convince ourselves that no one is perfect and that we are not the exception to the rule. Then we are left with the endless emptiness, knowing ( deep down) that we want to be the exception.We want to find that person which suits us in almost every way, but we are socially obligated to settle. To demand the best in a life partner is selfish and unrealistic. I wish I knew why.Why can’t we find that perfect person?Why must we compromise? We are both passion and reason.Why must we suffer this intolerable emptiness and constant pressure of self-doubt?We can’t live life as we are? A fusion of heart, mind, body and soul.Damn these cross-roads.Damn these decisions.Damn you compromise.
Nabam Serbang:- Wonderfull thought Dani. I guess compromise is quality of intellect not a dictator. People can make compromise only if he can weigh either side. This weighing needs trained mind, broad view, an informed mind and a human hearth. I think what we can guard while compromising is "never loose on what is right no matter what cost".
Sulu continues to muse this way ...... " Every twist is made up of turns, and those who cant align with the life's paths are destined to fret and fury for not having blessed with a straight life. If there is no more turns in the twists of life, it either means your life has become straight or it has ceased to exist.
Every great river reaches its destination only after taking twists and turns on its great journey. It meanders through its paths where it can, but when faced with rocks and mountains, it takes it's time and at first opporunity it takes detours. It doesnt sit fretting over not having his way laid straight, but explores the ways and means to flow ahead to join the great ocean. All the great roads runing across the country joins great distances and places. Its greatness is in not saying,'' My way ahead is blocked, I will stop my journey here.'' It compromises with the terrains of lands by twisting and turning where it cannot remain straight.
This is reflected in our professional and family lives as well. Many times in my professional life,I come with great plans to show my seniors in my work place. Many a times, it is ridiculed and put aside. But on every set back I recieve in my career, I cant quiet or wish away my seniors. I realise I too must have been same to my juniors at times. At home, my children are not always wat I want them to be, and since I love them, I have to compromise on many of my expectations from them. I know,they also compromise on many expectations they have from their parents, just as I had to with my parents. No man has ever achieved anything worthwhile without any major sacrifices.These sacrifices are nothing but compromises. You decide on points where you dont want to compromise, and to honour that decision, you compromise on many other aspects of life.
My friends, just as there cannot be any twists without turns, there cannot be any life without compromises. Better decide on what aspects of life you want to compromise and on waht aspects of life you do not want to compromise. To stand by the decissions you have made and chase the goals you have set, you will have to compromise those aspects of life which are of lesser priority to you.
"If there are rocks and hills on the course of rivers,
It is for the river to find out the weak spots,
It is for the river to find the valleys and gorges to make its way ahead.
Hills and rocks are not to be blamed, rivers have ot negotiate wit...h its pride in taking the bends.
It there are walls and mountains on the path of the wind,
It is for the wind to find holes and crevices,
And space to move on.
Walls and mountains are not to be blamed.
If there are problems and difficulties in life,
Men and women have to find its solution,
Many a cups of whipped up ego and pride have to be swallowed,
To move ahead in life,
Towards the greater goals of life which we have set for ourselves."
Thus Sulu muses.
N.B :- This is reproduction of discussion already goin on my FB wall. I have taken the liberty to reproduce comments of Meghli Mishra, Nabam Serbang and Aparjita as I found them to give directions to the discussion. This is not to say that other commentators... like Anindita, Jarpum, Tagiya comments were of lesser
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